Floods, Home, and Motherhood

Charleston, SC is where my home is currently located. The recent situation of flood disaster across South Carolina has an interesting personal perspective from me as I continue to watch South Carolinians recover in the aftermath and the presence of true miracles. Values and reasons that sustain what we all hold dear are not entirely standard commonalities across any type of people for their similarities that may or may not actually exist.

South Carolina has been in too much pain. The confederate flag was removed from the state grounds and the history of the people of this state was asked denial. I have lived in the South U.S. variously enough of my life to understand a better world in the present day out of all of the Southern people that have grown and matured and created better civilization than the historic pasts. Validation of pain in the South is regression from what has emerged better that shows a stubbornness to arrive correctly in the present time. Now South Carolina has had a flood crisis and more rebuilding and resources are demanded on top of economic and other pains.

Most of us were born from a human being that gave birth that we call “mother”. I am a daughter and I do still have a mother. I chose for many real reasons in my life not to bear children. This does not invalidate the concept and realization of motherhood that still remains valid, even when I know I do not wish to live my life for, about, or because of children. We do not all become exactly like the mother we were born from and history bears children that are not history’s mothers and fathers.

Precious to me are a few honest things in my life: home, my cats (my childeren), men and women that care about one another and keep well in contributions they give and values they maintain for themselves in better lives, skills and talents and resources not wasted and disposed of, but most of all how human beings take responsibility for their own decisions and uses when freedoms are still alive and the viability of all compatible existing versions of love that are defined in human kind. South Carolina might redefine in some ways, but if you ever knew this state and believed in anything remember not to hate with destruction that does not leave value for the changes achieved as I, for one, would like a future that keeps well.

I gave thanks my ways for my home that still remains in South Carolina today.

Mothers and Fathers die and pass away. As an adult, I have realized we are not always there for everything that happens in our own we have had and we did not always know in all ways everything that was from our heritage. When we do not deny our own lives as we are now, or our histories from our own understandings, life sustains alive on the Earth and a future.


Today, Tomorrow, and the Future

The present day was once the future of the past, and the future of today is our present tomorrow. When considering our present tomorrow, or our futures, there are sociological, economical, ecological, and theological elements to consider. Human questions we ask: How will we interact? ; What will be the quality of life? ; Where will we dwell? ; Why will we believe in our beliefs?   However the question, “When will the future arrive?” is hardly ever a spoken question.  The future never arrives.  We exchange one present day for the next until we die. The future is always for our children when we are no longer around, for then it is not the replacement of day after day but a day we do not see.  Rapid changes in society, technology, and environmental surroundings have occurred just within the last thirty to forty years of our life spans. We are so eager for our futures that we have forgotten the future was never ours. Tomorrow becomes today; the future always is ahead.

Visions of how we may become or where we wish to be move us into our tomorrows with answers and more questions. To truly decide on a future is to influence a world we will never see.  We wish to leave some part of ourselves behind, to protect our children when we are no longer there, and to leave better answers in place than we were given to begin with.  There are those who would argue that we have not prioritized correctly, or that we have used and wasted our resources. Others would reply that we probably should not care so much about a future in the face of our needs today.  Viability of the human race depends on perpetuation.  There is a catch in perpetuity in that it does not last eternally.

Planning for tomorrow is not accepting or reaching toward a future. It is the reason our todays are not always the same.  This is how we improve and it is how we deteriorate, we plan for tomorrow. There are two reasons the future is not recognized as a worthy endeavor: 1) Complacency and cognizance that today does not need to change and 2) anger at today’s answers that desire a different tomorrow.  Both of these reasons require tomorrow, not the future. To become more than ourselves, when we are no longer a concern, is beyond both of these points of view.

To truly strive for the future is selfless.  There also can be no tomorrows without today.  When our tomorrows end the future begins. We must not forget our today and we will always plan for our tomorrows, but the future is not ours. In the hope of eternity, we dream for the future.  However, our eternity is not now, it is not in the present of today, and far removed from our achievements and our struggles is the forever of the days we leave behind us.  We remember and we will be remembered.