Educated Beliefs

Knowledge is a powerful tool. Wisdom, truth and honor cannot be taught and belief, faith, and hope cannot be educated. We place a large value on higher education and letters behind names that prove teachings have created minds worthy of understanding. This price tag often does not repay us in kind for the investments made to improve ourselves. In a society of knowledge and information, things that cannot be taught are often produced through answers that cannot be educated. We need to rethink our ideas of valuing learned thought over answers that may become vital and valid through other means.

In my life, I have met those who hold higher educated knowledge and people of much less education with the value of common sense that prevails. I hold a degree at the Bachelor’s level and I would never maintain that higher education does not teach valuable answers. However, I have found across my life that beliefs are born out of our own experiences, not out of our knowledge basis, and we find faith and hope is not something we can learn due to facts and figures. Rather, both faith and hope can be eradicated of we cling to only the reality of the proven answers.

I have met those who would contest that knowledge is our basis for an adult understanding of reality. Let me offer an example of how knowledge can work with belief, faith and hope to create our reality:

I intend to move a mountain. In an educated arena, once upon a time, schooled thought would say this is impossible. Let us say my belief in the impossibility led to my work to develop tools and methods to move the mountain. With these tools and methods, there were those who laughed and did not believe I could move a mountain. My faith in my inventions of tools and methods moved me to use them to attempt the feat of mountain moving. Hope was in me that if I did not give up this could be accomplished. I eventually moved the mountain using the tools and methods I developed.

Many scoffed and laughed at Galileo. He was eventually proven correct on many schools of thought.  We often find our answers for ourselves through means that are not lifted up by others as knowledge that is taught and passed on.  This does not mean that knowledge basis for understanding is wrong, but we must not learn past our capability to still maintain and uphold our beliefs.

When education meets skill capability, we understand someone is exceptional. Our fault in demanding education recognizes the answers that are valuable and necessary to furthering our decisions is sometimes detrimental to the possibilities that exist for an enlightened future.  In a world where knowledge and information is sacred, we need to widen the scope to include understanding and vision that may not be found in places where what we know is the definition of how the world is and will continue to be.





An Ugly Word In Our Language

There is an ugly word in the English language. This word separates people, causes financial hardships, invokes societal problems, and leads to emotional, physical, and mental trauma. This word is divorce.

I have often thought two people should never involve something as difficult as “until death do us part” in a wedding vow. This one phrase explains the entire divorce catastrophe. The logic in divorce emotions is not sane: “Until death do us part” was included in the wedding vow’s promises, therefore the party guilty for ending the vow should die. I should know. I am divorced.

This is not to say that marriages cannot last a life span. Quite a few marriages are never broken.  People in marriages that last have worked hard at their relationships and found themselves comfortable companionship. Some divorced couples have also worked hard at their relationships and found themselves incompatible with one another. My grandfather divorced my grandmother when they were both over sixty years of age. My mother and father have been happily married for close to fifty years. There is no guarantee that two people will remain compatible for all of their days. It just as possible for caring, honest people to find a marriage dissolved in divorce as it is for a marriage to last a lifetime.

I may be a divorcee’, but I am still looking for that “special someone” that will last in a comfortable relationship. I have some ground rules about the “dating and divorced” situation. First, I do not date married men. I was a wife and I always wanted my husband to be “mine”.  I have, since my divorce, had a few boyfriends. I have not wanted to worry about the “other women” over them and I could not befriend men if I did not respect their wives’ claims to their husbands. I expect the same courtesy from women in return when I have a man on my arm.

Secondly, (I have learned this the hard way), I prefer not to date men that do not appreciate my manner of living or lifestyle. I have found this to lead to disasters. For a relationship to last, two people must be compatible- not just crazy over each other.

My third dating rule is simple. Remain honest. I found that pretending for “first impressions” is not half as valuable as finding out about each other right from the start.

My grandmother remarried as did my grandfather. I have had my “big wedding” and I do not need another one. This does not mean I intend to remain without a committed, monogamous, serious relationship. It is not easy “starting over” and it is difficult to constantly search for someone to be with. I realize I am happier than I was in my married life- and yet I also know I am happy when I have a “special someone” as long as I remember to cherish that relationship for as long as it lasts.