Payments from Patrons

Anyone familiar with history will recall that once upon a time goods were weighed on scales and money was added to the other side of the balance to give a fair price for the good sold. We are a far cry from this type of trading economy today. Unfortunately, we do still use the “balances” as scales for economic trading decisions. However, today money is weighed on both sides of the scales. Reasons abound. The weighing of monies determines the best person to do business with, the penalties to be paid (some penalties are extended for lesser weights and some penalties exist for heavier weights), and who can claim assistance under various systems for the determinations (as in the case of penalties some help is available for lesser weights and some additional perks are given for heavier ones). When the scales balance, we know we can talk to each other equitably in business and when the scales do not balance we are sometimes embarrassed, either way. Trading goods is another idea altogether. Buying and selling is secondary to the weighing of the money. Perhaps we have forgotten how to transact simply in buying and selling because transactions are not about what is offered and what is received for the offer in today’s economy. In our complex world, business is about what you have and do not have creating the settlement of the transactions before transactions take place and the exchanges are not products for sale. Rather, the exchanges are monies offered to prove that products may or may not be sold with or without penalties and assistances. Perhaps we need to return to our history lessons.

The world of business and finance is not easy. Patrons used to know that if the scales could not be balanced with a fair price, then the good could not be obtained. If the good offered was too heavy, more coin was necessary from the patron to affect a sale. Not so today. In our economic times, the fair price of a good may not reflect that a patron has appropriate money to buy and heavier goods can be obtained without more coin because the patron proved monies measured against other monies worthy on the scales. We are buying and selling based on the measurements of the expected exchange of monies, penalties, and assistances not doing business on the level of products purchased.

Maybe we should throw away the scales. This would force an exchange of products and money based on valued amounts rather than continuing to balance monies to determine worth. Radical changes to established business systems promote chaos. A shift instead of complete renovation offers more profitability than complete renovation of an economic system. If the direction of business practices has strayed so far from the foundation of participation in fair exchanges, the establishment of the option for direct exchanges without elimination of the current practices of balanced monies provides a path back to buying and selling properly between proprietors and patrons.


I Virtually Love You

Internet dating is common, difficult, and may become a complicated situation online.  Last month I found a profile, using my picture, created for a male seeking a female with details not commensurate with accurate information. The dating website in question suggested that I block this particular false profile from my “circuit” when I complained.  This is unkind to those looking for potential dating partners who might respond to this profile and not so much of a headache for my own image and love life as I can laugh at people who want to create nonsense about others.

There are other problems with seeking love in the virtual realm. I have experienced the “virtual mate” syndrome. This occurs when a person begins to talk in the chats with someone that seems to really “connect” in conversation. Personal e-mails are exchanged, hours are spent typing silly notes and talking about attraction over likes and dislikes, and then the big question is popped- “Do you finally want to meet up in person?” Suddenly there are no more responses, the chat room is empty, and (this has happened to me once or twice) a brief note saying where and when to meet is exchanged but no one ever shows up.

There are further problems with online dating profiles. Scammers target lonely women and send long flowery e-mails with “I love you already” all over the text and then want money to “visit” as their situation is keeping them apart from finding a way to get to you- their one true only love, instantly.

If this virtual dating environment is not enough to tax even the most laid back, easy- going person- there are more issues. Once personal e-mails are exchanged, pictures may be sent that Playboy or Playgirl would be proud to display.  Other offers suddenly pop up in the spam box (if filters catch them) and e-mails are exchanged with others without permission. Some online daters create profiles to talk to people for friends and the person showing up on that “first date” is not the person who has the profile on-line. Pictures may or may not show a realistic image as the pictures are old, pictures of someone else, or just not taken at a time when someone’s everyday appearance was the image captured. Profile preferences ignored by dating site administrators create “matches” with others that are not in any way according to specified interests. To top it all off, long distance daters like to write often and “really” get to know someone because they are safe in the probability that there will never be a real, physical relationship.

I still use internet dating sites.  There are reasons. It is difficult to find places to meet and connect with others looking for potential partners without other dangers less palatable than online woes.  Time, money, and effort considerations still make online dating a better choice for finding social connections.  On the other hand, “I virtually love you” just does not work for me.





Darkness In The Light

In 1989 George H. W. Bush in his inaugural address called on the “thousand points of light”. On July 5, 2011 the metal core band “Unearth” released their fifth studio album “Darkness In The Light”.  While these two events are widely dissimilar and unrelated, they speak of our time with eloquence. Our nation’s lights are tinged with darkness and we are trying to see in the night.

We are facing choices for a better tomorrow that we cannot have without maintaining today. Looking toward our future we are asking questions we cannot answer because the pathway forward is not visible past the shadows that surround us. A “thousand points of light” will not help illuminate what is up ahead unless the lights are gathered together so that we may see more clearly.

There is  “darkness in the light”. We are divided in our answers so deeply that what we see is only our own pool of pale sun.  If we cannot join our candles and see our way, there will undoubtedly be decisions made to travel separate directions and the visions of our people and our forefathers will only be the realization left for a few who find their way through on the strength of their own understanding.

Desert Storm began on August 2, 1990. The Iraq War began on March 20, 2003. The current shutdown of the United States government occurred in October of 2013.  For so long, the United States of America has stood as a light for other nations. We have protected and served the global community as a stronger people with a greater purpose. Now, we must find that strength and purpose for ourselves. Our people are still here; our land still stands; but the darkness in our light will not dissipate unless we come together.

In a time when we are struggling with our leaders, it is not a time to be followers. We must, instead, walk side by side so that each and every candle shows what is ahead. Our differences in a multi-cultural, value driven, freedom-preserving society are not issues to be debated and torn apart over. These differences are the fundamental foundation for shedding individual “points of light” on separate pieces of our future. If we stand shoulder to shoulder, united in keeping today working together for the future, we will see the complete vision that the joining of our lights reveals.

In every community there is a neighborhood and in every neighborhood there are families. In every family there are individuals who may or may not agree. Now is not a time to debate our beliefs. Now is a time to realize that we are all part of a family, a neighborhood, and a community that needs to support, sustain, and maintain today for our future. The “darkness in our light” can spread to complete night if we abandon one another in our search for our way forward. The Beatles wrote “Come Together”. We must remain free.

Light In Darkness

Light In Darkness